Accommodation: savings resort fee budget pre-pay/ pay later condos short rentals.SEASONAL TQs: NYE Super Bowl March Madness Chinese New Year Memorial Day Weekend.Money saving tips! Coupons! Birthday freebies!.First time visitor- what should I know? Includes places to see and things to pack!.Disabled access mobility information Dialysis services Hospitals Scooters.In fact in some ways I think if I have a daughter I'd almost be relieved, knowing how some guys can be! :) I know for a fact if I had kids and they were gay I wouldn't flinch. I do hope that one day these things are not even thought of as a "big deal", for example the struggle of people to "come out" to their family and the destruction and pain that can follow if their parents or siblings are stuck in a certain mindset. Of course, as a white middle class male, I cannot begin to understand the struggles that some people face in life around these very areas. Ultimately I think that your race, gender or sexuality shouldn't be "who you are" because it strikes me as not being very individual, and your true identity, the things that makes you such an individual and unique person, the reasons people warm to you as a friend or love you, can get lost behind that. I'm a live and let live kind of guy, a strange blend of liberal and conservative I guess, and I do worry sometimes about the oversensitivity of some people, or their need to identify so strongly with a group or phrase or sexuality or term or whatever. It would be a shame for him to be thought of as racist simply by using an old fashioned term that he grew up with. A little part of me flinched as I understand the reason that term is no longer used and it's historical significance, but he was absolutely not being racist or derogatory in any way, in fact quite the opposite. Off air we were talking about jazz as I'm a jazz lover and he was talking about a band and used the phrase "coloured chap". I agree with you, and I do sometimes wonder if people can be a bit sensitive to terminology when as you say, their heart is in the right place.Ī couple of years ago I was doing the tech for an older chap presenting a jazz show. Believe me, there's a clear difference between what you're saying vs how homophobes use terms like "preference" or "orientation" as a punchline.
It's super easy to tell if somebody is homophobic, so for somebody like you who clearly isn't, I don't care what terminology you use as long as your heart is in the right place. Again, we're talking about a spectrum of behavior. For others, there is indeed a choice/preference going on. Some will say they never considered anything else, which means there was no choice/preference. Really, the reason it doesn't work for all queer people is the same as why it doesn't work for all straight people When did you "choose" to be straight and know that you "prefer" to have sexual relations exclusively with the opposite gender with which you identify? The diversity of responses you'll get to that question from a random sampling of the public are just as myriad for straight people as gay people with the same gender. The reason that "preference" is problematic is because it precludes the fact that sexuality is a spectrum. >As I type this I hope "orientation" is the correct phrase, I know that "preference" is not correct anymore but I struggle to keep up sometimes!<<