Men who date trans women are not murdered regularly the way that we are. I don’t agree with Laverne Cox (for once in my life) when she says that men who date trans women “ are probably more stigmatized than trans women.” Part of the difficulty, I know, is that you may not want to admit that being attracted to, going out with, and having sex with trans women comes with intense social stigma.Īnother part is that trans feminists like myself believe that any discussion of transmisogyny must center around trans women ourselves. It’s something has remained unspoken, yet incredibly real, between us, as it does between so many trans women and the men they date. This is something that is so, so hard to talk about. And while this discrimination and hatred is mainly leveled toward girls like me, I know that some of it is reflected onto you as well. Let’s also take as a given the fact that being a trans woman who is outspoken and only sometimes passes is pretty much never easy thing.īoth of these things are true because of the transmisogyny that still runs rampant in our society and the communities we live in. I know that being a man who is dating a trans woman (who is outspoken and only sometimes passes) is not always an easy thing. I want you to know that I see you, I appreciate you, even when I am challenging you to treat women like me – trans women and women of color – better than men in this society are taught to. I want you to know that you change my life and give me strength – even when things between us were/are hard. This is a letter to all the men, both cisgender and transgender, who have ever loved me, and to all the men I will ever love. To J, always punning and making me laugh and to E, who is always truthful. To S – with whom the sex was freaking unbelievable. It’s a letter to M, so curious and kind, if occasionally thoughtless. This is a letter to P, who was always gentle. This is a letter to let you know that I still think about everything we did and will do together, everything we’ve talked about, every fight we had, and every tender moment we’re going to share. This is a love letter to each and every one of you. The issues of sexual orientation and sexual behavior (as well as the points they differ and overlap) still require further research and are more complex than most believe.“I cannot promise to love you fearlessly / But I can love you courageously” – d’bi young anitafrika, “Rivers of Love” Politics is all about rights and bills, which genuinely affect people the most.
Though, it’s worth mentioning that the recent year saw a rise of several pro-LGBT religious groups, including individual churches, synagogues, and denominations. Religion comes from the perspective of religious fundamentalism. Healthcare is all about biology, particularly neurobiological research, and our psychosexual development studied by Freud. As every field brings its side of sexuality to the front, and none take a comprehensive approach. And we doubt they’ll achieve a common ground anytime in the future. Is it a choice or a predisposition? The best minds of our world have not come to a unanimous conclusion yet. Numerous scientists, psychologists, healthcare professionals, and even religious activists are debating the nature of homosexuality (as well as other kinds of sexuality). Why am I gay ? That is a question that is even harder to answer.